As I was growing up in the 70’s these cartoons by New Zealand woman Kim Grove (who began creating them in the 1960’s) were everywhere. You couldn’t open a newspaper without seeing them and there were whole books dedicated to these cute “Love is” cartoons.To an impressionable teen these little cartoons ‘set the bar’ for my expectations of love and marriage. Sadly, I learned in life that whilst love is wonderful, it is also open to interpretation. Generally that interpretation depends largely upon the people involved in a relationship, their past experiences and their expectations of what love should be.
It’s taken a lot of years but I have learned (and experienced) real love.
There are a million quotes on love out there.
I often think of the quote (not sure who said it):
Love is never having to say you’re sorry
I’m sorry? What did you say?
I am of the opinion that if you truly love someone, you will need to apologise many, many times. Because true love admits mistakes and makes amends for them.
There are so many fallacies about love out there.
Many of these quotes are written by people with the rose coloured glasses of the early days of infatuation and desire firmly in place over their eyes.
As you live those heady days, every thought is consumed by the object of your desire. Every waking moment is spent in dreams of a bright coloured future. Faults are overlooked and the world is full of rainbows and unicorns.
Real love continues on when the rainbows and unicorns give way to sleepless nights with crying children, loss of loved ones, health issues and the general struggles of day to day life.
Real love is when you come home from work tired and cranky and he says “Don’t worry, I’ll get dinner”.
Real love accepts your faults as a part of you.
Real love forgives.
For those of us who are lucky enough to have found real love in our lives, we are blessed.