I have always been of the belief that when words fail (and in some circumstances not even words can help) then just being there is enough.
Unfortunately it took the events of the past two weeks to reinforce this belief but I am glad that it did.
So many people have difficulty in expressing what they feel.
They believe that they just don’t have the words or the situation makes them feel uncomfortable so they just pull back and don’t communicate at all.
This can be disheartening for the person who needs them at this time.
What I have learned is that just sitting beside someone and holding their hand can work wonders.
Offering to do the dishes or cook a meal helps as well.
Not everyone has the ability to counsel.
Not everyone feels comfortable in talking about things. Therefore it is important to find a way to express your empathy in other ways.
Just being there and saying “Hey, I’m here if you need me” is often all that a person wants to hear.
Cracking bad jokes or sweeping the floor may be all that is required.
Clearing the table after a meal or quietly wiping away a tear may be the best that you can do.
Or bringing flowers and chatting about things that are far removed from the situation may be just what the doctor ordered.
When someone is lost and feeling as if their world is about to end they need to know that it will be alright.
You don’t have to sweep in with all the answers and make everything right.
Sometimes you just have to be there.