It’s a hard thing trying not to care what others think of you.
It’s something that I struggle with on an almost daily basis.
Deepak Chopra stated:
What others think of you is not your business
He’s right. We all know it.
But inside each of us is that little kernel of negative self belief that makes us care what other think of us.
Interestingly, I read a blog post by Michael Hyatt this morning entitled “Friends, Critics and Trolls” in which he talks about what happens to people who put themselves out there or who are leaders. He acknowledges that criticism hurts but that it is inevitable.
None of us are perfect and we all make mistakes.
If you are in a leadership position then there are going to be times that things occur and those who are under you won’t like it. Maybe even other colleagues will not appreciate your role.
Actually the fact that I read that blog post this morning is really weird because today I walked away from work thinking “Hmmmm. What is she thinking? Have I done/said something that has created an opinion of myself in her mind that I won’t like?”
We all want to be liked but let’s face it… we live in a world where we are all so vastly different. Very few people do things like you, say things like you or react to situations in the same way as you would. Whatever we do in the world is going to be scrutinised by others. It’s human nature to look at others and evaluate what they have done and their motives for doing so. Therefore it stands to reason that people are not always going to think of us with warm, fuzzy thoughts.
And so, I walk away from today and say “Well, I did the best I could with the knowledge that I have. I am acting in the way in which I would normally act. I am me. Nobody else. I am happy with my life and that is all that matters”.
Of course, I could be imagining all of this but really….. why lose sleep over it all?