I read an interesting article the other day about our thoughts and our character. At the time, I thought “that’s interesting” but didn’t pay it much further thought until a day or so ago. The premise of the article was about our thoughts and how they align with our character and I’ve got to admit that it made me feel a little better about myself.
Those who’ve been with me for a while now know that I do my best to think the best of everyone but that occasionally (well to honest it happens far more often than I would like)… well I just fail miserably at being charitable with my thoughts. So how did this article make me feel better!
It pointed out that as a rule, the first thought that we have about a person. Place or situation is often as a result of our years of life experiences, habits and conditioning. It then went on to say that the SECOND thought is what defines your character. I have no qualms in raising my hand and saying that there have been times that I have looked at a person and thought “Honey, did you not glance in the mirror before you left the house”? Admit it. I’m not the only one guilty of this right? What I am finding though is quite often these days my next thought will be “and who died and made you a fashionista Sue? Maybe she/he has nothing else to wear today.”
Thats just a tiny example of some of the judging thoughts that pass through my mind each week though. Often I have observed situations and made judgements on the people involved. I know I’m not alone in doing this. I don’t know of one person who can claim to never make judgements of others. This is where I am finding that the second thought ‘maketh the man’ so to speak, as I berate myself and begin to look for reasons behind the words or behaviour.
No one is perfect. No one. We all fail. We all have that ‘first’ thought but its the second thought that defines who you are. I have come home from work on a number of occasions and done a mental stocktake of my interactions throughout the day. I’ve even journalled about things and berated myself for my thoughts. i guess that could where my second thoughts define me. its an intersting concept and one i discussed with my boss yesterday.
What do you think? Do you think this idea is right!